Volume 3, Issue 07

With Kids in Mind

Sara is 16 years old, and has just given away what was left of her innocence to someone she didn’t really know or care about. She’s failing in school, is angry all the time, and is unable to talk about her feelings without getting lost in her emotions.
Her childhood dreams have all but vanished. Her memories filled with broken promises. She’s lost her confidence, believes that love, real love doesn’t exist, and that relationships are like the packaging on so much of the stuff we buy, entirely disposable. Her life, as she’s come to know it, is the unintended consequence of divorce.

When parents decide to part ways, it can often be after many years of ‘trying’ to make things work. During this stress-filled time, we want to believe that our children are immune and resilient. However, they too are living through the ‘trying’ times and experience their own stress and fears. For many, their unaddressed fears manifest in a variety of disempowering ways, and the long term impact can take a life time to resolve, if ever.

As a child of divorced parents, and a parent who divorced, it has taken me many years to gain clarity around the impact of divorce on children. This is why I feel so much passion now for helping parents help their children flourish through divorce.

“Divorcing or Separating with Kids in Mind” is a focus of my Relationship Coaching business. I want to give parents the tools to help their children come through the family breakup feeling empowered and confident.

If this story resonates with you, or if you know a parent who may be going through separation or divorce, I’d like you to consider working with me or referring me.

Please pass this on to your friends.