Volume 2, Issue 5

Accepting Disappointments with Grace

The exciting thing about life is that it’s always changing. Just when you think you’ve figured things out, life takes a different turn. One of the things I’ve recently been reminded of is how to make the change process more comfortable and even enjoyable, by accepting disappointments with grace.

A few weeks ago, I was myself frustrated and upset with a situation because things weren’t going my way. I pouted (on the inside) OK it showed a little on the outside too, silently blamed others and excused my behaviour by saying I was just under the weather.

For a number of days, I was the VIP at my very own “Pity Party”. Viewing everything and everyone through my “Blue” lenses, all I saw supported my perspective, and to avoid dealing with me, I became acutely judgmental of the actions of others.

Happily my party was short lived and now that I’m on the bright side of unhappy I recognize that my behavior was childish; I was being impatient and my response to those feelings was immature, and to make matters worse, my actions caused others to feel uncomfortable too. I had temporarily lost my way.

I’m sharing my experience with you in the hope that if your inner child makes an unexpected appearance you’ll remember these words of wisdom from Sonia Choquette, and find a way to accept your disappointments with grace:

Your soul’s purpose right now is to shine a bright light on these juvenile behaviors so that you can see how they make things worse for you and those you love.

Your soul’s lesson: Calm your inner brat and exercise self control. Release your attachment to specific outcomes and be willing to concede graciously when the Universe has another (better plan).