Test the strength of your relationship and determine whether it has long-term potential
This assessment will ask you some key questions to determine the strength of your current relationship. This measure can be used with people who are dating or married, but you must currently be in a relationship to complete it. We will use the word "partner" to describe your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, or significant other. The results will let you know whether your relationship has the strength to withstand the ultimate tests of time and stress.
Please complete all items. Rate each item on a scale of 1-5. Select the answer that best represents your feelings, thoughts, and behaviors as they relate to your current relationship. Try to answer as openly and honestly as possible. Choose how true each statement is for you.
| I often think about how fortunate I am to have found and to be with my partner. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| If I write down a list of the top 5 qualities I look for in a partner, my current partner possesses at least 4 of them. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| Most of the time, I feel incredibly satisfied with the support I get from my current relationship. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| If asked about the strength and vigor in my relationship, I would be able to say 'very strong' without hesitation. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| My partner frequently asks me how I am doing and expresses interest in my daily life and activities. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| I know there are always compromises in relationships, and I feel like the compromises in mine are reasonable. I do not have to sacrifice or give in too much. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| I frequently think, 'It is such a reward to see my partner after a long and stressful day.' |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| When my partner and I disagree, we do not typically say deeply hurtful things to one another. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| I tend to feel very confident and self assured when I am with my partner. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| My relationship meets the majority of my wants and needs from a romantic relationship. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| My partner is not overly dominant or submissive in our relationship. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| Despite busy lives and schedules, my partner and I make time to spend 'quality time' together doing the things we really enjoy. We frequently have a lot of fun together. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| I really like the way that I act and come across to others when I am with my partner. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| I do not have difficulty with expressing my feelings and desires in my relationship to my partner. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| My partner and I regularly check in with each other to discuss our future plans and aspirations together. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| When faced with a difficult or unclear situation, my partner is one of the first people I want to go to for help, support, or advice. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| My feelings towards my partner are mostly those of love and affection. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| I know that I can truly depend on my partner to be there for me no matter how difficult times get. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| One of the things that makes me very happy in my relationship is how my partner expresses his/her feelings for me, either verbally or nonverbally. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| On a typical day, I.do not think about how much better all of my friends' relationships are. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| My partner and I are very physically attracted to one another. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| On several occasions, I have pictured my future with my partner and it has made me smile. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| The positive aspects in my relationship significantly outweigh the negative ones. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| My partner and I have a very satisfactory level of intimacy with each other and passion for each other. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| I do not frequently worry about getting into arguments or disagreements with my partner. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| While my partner and I are very attracted to each other, our feelings go beyond lust and there is a genuine caring for one another. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| My family members or friends have told me that my partner and I seem to be very well suited for each other and seem to be very happy together. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| My partner regularly shows that she/he respects and loves me by doing things like helping out with tasks, surprising me with something I like or enjoy, making thoughtful comments, or telling me that she/he is proud of my accomplishments. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| My partner and I have genuine trust in one another and neither of us typically acts jealous or controlling. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
| I feel that my partner really listens to what I have to say and wants to support me and help me to excel and be happy. |
| Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True |
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